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Stop self-loathing


Being a woman in today's world can be hard, especially because we are so hard on ourselves. As we grow from little girls, into adults, we learn and watch so many other women struggle with their own self-love and to be honest, it breaks my heart.

I won't lie, I have days where I look at myself and point out what I don't like, or make harsh comments about myself. At that moment, I feel like they're necessary and that they're true. The harsh reality is, I only think these comments because of the way life is right now, social media, magazines, "catwalks" which only use the smaller models.

All of these things make us overwhelmed with messages that we aren't good enough, smart enough, funny enough, small enough and then that's when the self-loathing begins.

Self-loathing can be extremely damaging so please, if you feel like you are stuck in a cycle which you can't escape, you can try these tips to help stop the self-loathing:

1. Question the negative thoughts

When you hear yourself say that nasty remark or comment, pull yourself upon it. Ask why you think your hips are too big? Who told you that? Is there a reason you feel that it's a bad thing?

Questioning the thoughts can help you think a little further into the comment you just made and in many cases, you will learn that the comment isn't a fact. Therefore, it shouldn't be said.

2. Collect good thoughts

This is a bit of a cheesy one, but when you have a good thought about yourself or somebody else says something nice and heartwarming about yourself, write it down. You can keep a small notepad with the thoughts or even a note in your phone which you just add onto.

When you have a bad day of self-loathing, you can then take a look at all of the lovely comments which can help bring you some well-deserved self-love.

3. Embrace the bad

A lot of our self-loathing thoughts come from the feeling that we have done something "wrong". Maybe you ate a few too many chocolate rows, or you didn't exercise, or you slept with your ex. Whatever it is, instead of thinking about it, embrace it. Everybody is only a human being, in fact, your just a small human being in a big world. Remember that, and move past the bad!

These three tips are what I personally use to help stop the self-loathing I experience, I hope they can help you as well!