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Lingerie can be whatever you want it to be - Verity Stilley

This blog has been written by one of our beautiful customers - Verity Stilley. You can find Verity on Instagram by searching @be.see.embrace_you

Why own lingerie? Let us first consider some reasons that you might have used to talk yourself out of it. Do you consider it pointless because you have no-one to wear it for? Do you feel your figure is not appropriate? Do you believe that it is not for everyday women? The truth of the matter is that lingerie can be whatever you want or need it to be. It doesn’t have to be about seduction. You don’t need to have a partner to wear it for. You don’t need to have the ‘perfect’ body. Lingerie can hold a place in your life far beyond the bedroom. The only thing that prevents it from doing so is you.

Perhaps the most fulfilling role lingerie can play in your day to day life is its ability to contribute to how you see and carry yourself. Lingerie can empower you. It can reinvigorate the woman within you. It can help you to feel comfortable in your own skin. It can help you to feel beautiful, sexy, and confident, all of which can bolster your strength and enable you to feel powerful. When you feel powerful your sense of self-belief is strong. The more you believe in yourself, the more you trust yourself and the more you trust yourself, the more you back yourself.

There is a reason why self-love, self-respect and self-worth all start with self. These things can only come from within and everything you need to nurture them is already inside you. Lingerie can help you uncover them. It can be a stepping stone in your path that you’re forging in your journey of self-love if you allow it to be.

Self-confidence can also be learned, practiced, and mastered. The problem is not with your body, the problem is what you think of it and what you think of yourself. Your thoughts are your power. If you don’t feel good about you, it’s hard to feel good about anything else. The actions of confidence must come before the feelings of confidence.

Making the choice to take a chance with lingerie can serve as one of those actions. Each time you step outside of your comfort zone and surpass your own limitations is a step towards creating the confidence you seek.

Beauty is not physical. Beauty is what you feel about yourself and if something makes you feel beautiful then you should do it. Don’t allow yourself to think that you are not good enough or not deserving. Quiet your voice of self-doubt. You are enough. You are worthy. Every woman deserves to own lingerie. Every woman deserves to feel beautiful.

When you start to browse the endless options, remember, you are not looking for lingerie pieces that you think might make you look sexy, you are looking for pieces that you will enjoy and feel good about yourself in. Start out slow, do your research, and take the time to identify your taste and levels of comfort. Don’t be afraid to experiment and try to find those pieces that will highlight your favourite assets. You are allowed to celebrate yourself. You are free to create your own style. Purchase only those pieces that feel like you and those that you can wear with conviction.

You don’t realise how much you have neglected yourself until you choose to make yourself a priority. Consider this: how many times have you countered the words of women you know or care for when they have expressed personal insecurities or a feeling of unworthiness with your own words of encouragement, support or compliments? If the answer is often, have you ever stopped to ask yourself why are you not worth the same kindness from yourself? Why does what you apply to other women not apply to you? The one thing you can control is how you treat yourself so why not do something today that your future self will thank you for: buy yourself some beautiful lingerie.


Bras By S is an Australian Lingerie Boutique, offering sizes 6-30 with more than 500+ styles available in plus size.

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