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Finding confidence for lingerie

Confident woman in lingerie in bed

Not everybody feels confident in lingerie, that is completely normal and quite common! There is also absolutely nothing wrong with that!

There was once a time when I didn't feel confident in lingerie either. I felt like a dork and awkward. I also thought my partner was thinking I looked ridiculous and staring at my stretch marks and the rest of my imperfections (which, by the way, I only think about myself. My partner seems to think I don't have any imperfections!).

There is this big stigma that lingerie only "suits" and "looks good on" smaller sized women, which makes it hard for all the other women in the world. It's not fair and to be honest, it is a load of rubbish. I assume this stigma comes from the fact that most lingerie boutique's only stock up to a certain size, which is usually a smaller size and the models that are often used in advertising.

This is exactly the reason I decided to launch a plus size lingerie boutique in Australia! To help women of all sizes and shapes know that they can and should wear lingerie if that's what they want to do!

Once I pushed those thoughts out of my mind and knew that lingerie can be worn by any woman, I became much more confident in wearing lingerie and now I actually love it! It really does come to mind over matter.

Here are my top tips to start feeling confident and sexy in lingerie.

1. Wear lingerie you love

There are SO many types of lingerie out there, different styles fits, cuts and materials. I wouldn't be surprised if you felt overwhelmed the first time you looked into lingerie. Don't buy lingerie you don't love, it is a waste of money and time! Try on different styles and different materials and decide what your style is. Remember that lingerie isn't always about your partner, I actually believe that lingerie should be for you, so don't wear anything you aren't comfortable in.

2. Stop with the negative thoughts

I know, easier said than done, but it is really important that you stop the negative thoughts. When you put on your lingerie, think about things you love about yourself! Maybe you think your curves look ahhhh-mazing in your new babydoll or maybe the colour you picked makes your eyes pop, whatever it is, only have good thoughts in your mind! Say BYE to the bad stuff!

3. Do those extra steps (whatever they may be)

It's usually the smaller things which make us feel great, so whether it's being freshly shaven, putting on your favourite perfume or wearing red lipstick, do those extra few steps. I know that when I spend an extra 5 minutes in the bathroom applying my face creams and hair products, I always feel 10x better about myself!

4. Don't be shy

Have you ever heard the saying "you don't know if you like something until you try it", yep, I am going to be cliche and say it now! Trying new things is always scary, but it is also exciting. Remember when you went on your first date? Scary but so much fun!

5. Make sure you are wearing the right size

It's important that you are wearing the right size. You want your curves to be highlighted but not squished, and of course, you want to be comfortable! I've worn clothes which were too small before and I didn't want to move because it just dug into my sides and hurt. That is the last thing you want when wearing lingerie.

6. Dim the lights

It's okay if you're still nervous! You always have the option to dim the lights, we are trying to make you feel confident, so if some dimmed lights make that happen then perfect! PS, candles make the perfect dimmed light, plus they're an added touch of romance.

7. Have fun

Lingerie isn't supposed to make you feel bad, it's supposed to do the complete opposite. Lingerie should make you feel empowered, confident, sexy and on top of the world. If it just doesn't do that for you, then don't worry!


Bras By S is an Australian Lingerie Boutique, offering sizes 6-30 with more than 500+ styles available in plus size.

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