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Buying lingerie when you don't love your body

Buying lingerie is a very personal thing to do. It is not something that you leave to someone else to do. The pieces that you choose need to be ones that you love and feel comfortable in. And most importantly, that will make you feel confident. This can be difficult if you have reservations about your body or you don’t love your body. We have all had thoughts when we look in the mirror and are not happy with what we see. But this doesn’t mean that you need to steer clear of buying yourself some sexy lingerie, it can actually help with those feelings. Let us help you with buying lingerie when you don’t love your body (yet!).

Get a fitting

As uncomfortable as you may feel going to someone and having them size you up – it is the best way to get a well-fitting piece of lingerie. A professional bra fitter won’t be judging your body. They see many different body shapes each day and they know how to make you feel comfortable around them.

By getting a fitting, you can then choose pieces that are well fitted and suit your body type. This will help you to feel comfortable and confident in your new pieces.

Look in a mirror

I know it can be hard sometimes to look at your exposed body in the mirror, but it really will help. Looking at your body, the way it sits and the various curves will help you to see the true beauty that is there. Try to look past any negative feelings you have and focus on the positives. Once you are able to appreciate your body for what it is, you can then add in the lingerie that will suit it.

Choose your colours

When you choose your everyday clothes, you choose pieces that are in the colours that you like. Your favourite colours or ones that you know suit you when you wear them. This can be applied to lingerie as well. Even if no one else is going to see it, it doesn’t mean that it can’t be pretty and in your favourite colours. Choosing colours that you love will make you want to put them on and you will feel better about wearing them.

Talk to your partner

As personal as lingerie is, it is also important to speak to your partner about how you are feeling. Let them know that you are not happy with your body and talk to them about what parts it is. Speaking to someone you are intimate with means that they can talk to you about the bits that they love. Hearing someone else talk in a positive attitude about your body and how they love it, can help you to start to feel the same.

Take it slow

Buying lingerie doesn’t mean having to go out and buy extreme pieces that you are scared of actually wearing. It can be as simple as a new lacey bra. If you have not purchased lingerie before, take it slow. Buy a few simple pieces to start with and get used to them. Look at yourself in the mirror wearing them and find the positives. As you start to do this, your confidence will start to increase and then you can experiment with more racy pieces.

Take someone shopping with you

If you are still feeling uncomfortable about walking into a lingerie shop, or even looking at lingerie online, have a support person with you. Someone who will not judge you, will laugh with you about strange pieces and that will compliment you on your choices.

Lingerie buying should not make you feel uncomfortable. It can be scary at first, but it is a great way to boost your confidence. It can help you to change your mindset on your body and start to love it instead. Loving your body can take time and that’s okay.

Take it one day at a time. Each day find something about your body that you can compliment. Once you start having positive thoughts each day, it will start to become second nature. The negative thoughts will not stand a chance.

Remember, no matter your shape or size – you are beautiful both inside and out.

Are you ready to start loving your body too? You can shop our collections here.


Bras By S is an Australian Lingerie Boutique, offering sizes 6-30 with more than 500+ styles available in plus size.

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